You have heard it before, but here it is again. "Do not judge a book by its cover." Let me take it deeper. "Judge not." Got it? Too many people have misjudged so many people and situations. How abut you? Yes you have. Yes I have. And yes, you have even misjudged yourself. Your judging leading to so much misjudging. Don't do it.
In order to be clear ask Holy Spirit. There it is again- Watch what God is doing, and then rest in that. It will save you so much heartache, so much wasted energy. Rest in what God is doing. Trust and believe that God is handling it. I promise that you will be surprised- all because of God's promises to you. Don't judge- let it go. enough for now.